Hoping to someday find M's brother adopted in the U.S. -
Myckola Oleksandrovych Markov - 8/26/2003

Thursday, June 24, 2010

It Sold!

Phillip's truck sold yesterday. Whoohoo! One step closer to reaching our goal :) I'm a little bit sad, and I think Phillip is too because he'd had that truck a long time but we won't miss it too much.

I bought the boys a Baby Russian video off of amazon.com so they can start hearing Russian and (hopefully) pick up a few words to talk to their new sibling with. I also got it to play once we are home so that our new child can hear Russian and hopefully be comforted a little bit by something familiar. Its pretty cool. Like baby version of Rosettta Stone. They are watching it now and are completely engrossed. I really should go watch it with them. I might learn something!

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Why?

Let me preface this with a note saying that this blog is also my diary of our adoption journey so I feel that it is important to write down everything, good and bad, that we come across on the way to adopting our child because I want to be able to look back at this blog and remember everything we felt and went through. This particluar post is one that I have written and deleted numerous times but people keep bringing this up, and I'm not gonna lie, it hurts and I need to write about it.


Why do people have to keep asking me if we will be able to view a child's medical records before we adopt them? Why do people have to keep telling me about other people they've "Heard of" who adopted children and now had to put them in an institution? Why don't people realize that we will be happy with a child who is less than perfect? Its one thing to be genuinly concerned about us and it is another to say something like "Well so and so got a child from there too, and they had something wrong with them so now they've put them in an institution. Its really sad. I sure hope everything works out for you." Gee thanks! If I was pregnant with a child, no one would say something like "Well so and so was pregnant too and their child was born with something wrong with them, so I hope you are really looking into this being pregnant thing and make sure you know what you're getting into."

Just for the record, adopting a child (for me anyways) is just like being pregnant. God gave me my two children. I didn't get to choose what they would look like or how they would act when they were conceived. I wouldn't love them less if they had been born less than what the world views as perfect. Adopting is no different. God has chosen a child (or children) for us. Instead of being pregnant this time, we have to go bring this child home. They are still our child. We don't know what God has in store for us, or who He has chosen to be our child, but one thing is for certain; when I see my child, I won't be worried about what obstacles we may have to help them overcome, I will be thinking how beautiful they are and how lucky I am for God to have called me to be their mommy.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

What a week and its only Wednesday

Wow what a week is all I can say! My head is still kind of spinning with all the changes, expected and not, that we are now in the middle of. One thing leads to another and another and one thing affects things that you never thought of... its kind of scary and I have been tempted to be worried about things working out for us but I have seen God bring me though too much to ever doubt Him. He has laid plan for us and He does not make mistakes. We just need to follow Him and remember that He will take care of us.

I will admit that I've been rather anxious the past few days in spite of this knowledge. I know it will all work out, but darn it, I'm on pins and needles waiting for it to happen!

We finally cleaned the shed out really well last night, in preparation for storing yardsale items. It was the first time in two weeks that it hasn't been over 90 so we took advantage of the "cooler" temps and got it done. We also set up a toddler bed in our room for our new little one. We were going to wait a bit longer, but once we told Wesley what the bed was for, he insisted that we set it up NOW. He just cannot wait to have a sister :)

As far as paperwork goes, I sent off our background checks today. They should be back in about a month. We had a minor setback with the employment verification letter. Phillip got it done, but somehow one of the kids (Wes says Wyatt) got into the car and took it out of the envelope it was in then "played" with it up at the sandbox. I found it this morning. Yeah... Somehow I don't think the SDA would like a mud smudged, wrinkled, employment verification letter.... so Phillip will have to get his work to do another one.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Truck, Bruises, and Insurance*RawR*

So most of you probably already knew this, but there are a lot of strange people in this world; and most them evidentially sit around answering adds on craigslist. Seriously, why do people call, email, and come look at a truck that they really had no intention of buying? Yes, listed at $4,800 means that we really want that for it. Not $4000. If you only have $3000 don't tell me that's all you have and ask if I'll take it. ARGH! If this truck would just sell, I'd feel much better about our adoption budget. I'm sure it will. Something like you have to go through 10 people to get 1 serious buyer and even that person might not want it, so I guess we're on like number 7 so far? LOL

I had an enteresting experience on Thursday last week. I normally wear contacts because I am legally blind in one eye even with corrective lenses and I just hate having that glasses frame in my vision when I can only see well with one eye to start with; but Thursday morning I went racing outside wearing my glasses because my child had let the chickens out of their pen and into the yard. (Something has been eating them so I am keeping them up until I find it) So out of the house I go, running across the patio and onto the wall border so I can hop into the yard, glance down at my feet briefly, whoah blurry vision "Where are my feet?" ran through my mind and BAM! I fell off the patio and into the gravel. Cuts, scrapes, and one HUGE purple bruise on my knee were the end result. No more glasses wearing and walking for me. I was pretty happy that despite the horrible bruise and the cuts on my ankle, I really didn't get hurt for as hard I as fell. I guess I'm in pretty good shape ;)

I looked up our insurance claim info this morning and for all the lip service my Drs Office billing dept. paid me, they haven't done a darn thing. My claim info is still showing that they took my office visits for homestudy paperwork and shots and submitted it under a well visit which used up my benefits for my once every two year physical. So this means that when hubby and I go to the Dr. next month for our physicals for our dossier paperwork, insurance won't cover them because they think we've already been. Doesn't matter if we've explained a thousand times what the previous visits were for. They won't cover it because of the medical coding that was used by the Dr. office when the paperwork was filed. Seriously though, a $75 charge for an office visit, and then a $30 administration charge, and then the $50 charge for ONE STINKING SHOT!? C'mon now! I saw the nurse for 3 minutes. *HUGE EYE ROLL HERE* cause for the record, I had 3 shots before I realized that this is how they were billing it. Thanks a million for the heads up... thanks even more for saying you'd try to fix it and then doing nothing.

*EVEN BIGGER EYEROLL*

So, I'm sitting here planning our yardsale and hoping that we "strike it rich" because it sure takes a lot of money before we even get on the plane. Of this I am sure though, it is without a doubt worth every headache and every dollar spent. I can't wait to meet the child God has chosen for us :)

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Its paperchase time!

We're right at 4 months to go before we submit our dossier to the SDA so we are officially starting to gather paperwork today! There is so much to do... our Dr. appointments are in July and we have to redo our state background checks, plus loads of other stuff, BUT I'm excited that we're done sitting around waiting for the time to come. Its here!

We also moved the furniture in our bedroom around so that now we have room for a toddler bed next to our bed. I need to buy a crib mattress for it and some girl bedding (since I am convinced that we are coming home with at least one girl). I have nothing that remotely resembles anything "Girly" in my house. Its all cars, trucks, trains, or tractors. I am SO excited to go buy something pretty! Of course I haven't done that yet, because I don't think I could stand staring at an empty bed for 5-6 months but the room is ready!

Please pray for everything to go smoothly as we go through the paperwork process. Pray that we do everything correctly the first time and that no mistakes are made by the people handling our documents. Pray that IF there are mistakes made that they will be found in time for us to fix them and not at the last minute. Pray for no surprises! I thrive on being able to plan ahead and check things off a list. Phillip can handle a sudden change, but it throws me out of whack for several days lol

Pray for our child (or children) in Ukraine; that God will keep them safe and begin to prepare their heart and mind for what will be a huge change in their life.

Pray also that we will be able to raise the rest of the money that we need. Specificially pray that Phillip's truck will sell for the asking price. We have listed it on craigslist and have not had any serious inquiries yet, to our surprise! We are also going to be doing a huge yardsale next month and we need donations for that yard sale and then lots of people to come and buy all of that stuff.

We also have another potential change in our lives that we have been hoping for, but knowing that it will happen if it is God's will. We should know something this week so pray that we receive a clear indication of what the right choice is and are able to make it and not look back.

That's all for now!

Friday, June 4, 2010

Birth Parent Search - Please help!

My friend Julie was placed for adoption as an infant and has spent much of her adult life searching for her birth parents. She recently found her birth mother who told her that she has two other children who are Julie's half-siblings, but wants no relationship with her and wants her to quit searching and just leave her and her children alone. You can imagine how painful that must be for Julie. She still wants to find out who her father is and try to connect with that side of her biological family, but her mother will not give her any info on who or where her dad is. Please take a few minutes to check out her website, especially if you live in the Ohio or West VA area.

http://searching4julie.ucoz.com/

Whatever it takes.

We made the decision to enroll Wes in preschool. He is so smart, but can be so wild and unruly at times and usually he is at his worst when we're around other kids. I know when we add another child (or two) to our family later this year that I am going to be super stressed trying to keep up with all of them and I don't want that lapse in my attention during that time to create an opportunity for Wes' behavior to get out of control. LISTENING and OBEYING are our two biggest struggles right now. With all of us adjusting, I don't think I will be able to devote the amount of time to him that I wanted to this winter to start teaching him the basics of preschool myself. Plus I have to admit that 3 hours a day, 3 days a week sounds like a nice little break for mom to worry about one less child :)

I wasn't sure how we were going to afford an additional expense right now as we are still trying to figure out where to come up with the rest of the money we need to complete our adoption, but we felt that it was the best thing for all of us so we registered him this spring.

I decided to bite the bullet and sell my digital piano. I used to play a lot when I was in High School and before I had my kiddos. I had kept it in hopes that "some day" I might have time to concentrate on it again, but alas a mommy never has extra time! I also kind of hoped that the musical genes in my side of the family and Phillip's might combine and produce a little Mozart, but as of yet, the boys seem to prefer "working" on anything with wheels so I think the mechanic genes may have won out because they would rather turn the volume all the way up and drive trucks across the keyboard than sit down and "play" anything.

The piano was listed for a while on craigslist and finally someone made an offer on it that was less than what I wanted for it, but hey it was cash and they were the ONLY person who had even asked about. They picked it up last night and loaded it into the back of their truck right as a monster thunder storm began unleashing itself on us.

So its gone. Now we have an empty space in our room that is going to be filled with a toddler bed for our new little one. I'm not really sad about selling the thing because I never got the chance to play it anymore, and we couldn't afford the first few months of preschool without selling it but I kind of miss that it being there. I guess that means I need to get that toddler bed set up ASAP. Thinking about doing that makes me REALLY excited :) It will finally be something tangible in our house that says we have another child on the way! Another plus to this is that maybe now I can make myself get rid of all of my old sheet music that has been in a box for the last 5 years...

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Yardsale Fundraiser

So I have been thinking about what I could do to help us raise the extra money we still need to complete our adoption, and I think I have hit on an idea. I have decided that it would be a great idea to have a yardsale fundraiser. Not just any yardsale either. We are going to be collecting our friend's and neighbors "junk" until we have enough to have a HUGE yardsale. So, if you want to clean out your house but don't know what to do with the stuff, well now ya do. Bring it here :) I would also be happy to come pick up stuff from our friends and neighbor's houses provided it will fit in the back of my car. Phillip's truck is completely torn apart right now as he is in the middle of replacing the head gasket, so we can't haul large items at the moment because we don't have a working truck.

I am thinking that I would like to have the yardsale sometime in July. We'll be starting the paperwork chase in earnest that month so I want to go ahead and get it done before I'm flying around in a flurry of paperwork.

Leave me a comment here or on facebook, or email me if you would like to donate your unwanted items :)

Oh and just a side note, anything that doesn't sell will be donated to Goodwill except for children's items that I can consign and then put that money towards our fund as things sell.


We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life; but those who make their journey home across time and miles, growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,are carried on the wings of destiny; and placed among us by God's very own hands. --Kristi Larson

 

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