Let me preface this with a note saying that this blog is also my diary of our adoption journey so I feel that it is important to write down everything, good and bad, that we come across on the way to adopting our child because I want to be able to look back at this blog and remember everything we felt and went through. This particluar post is one that I have written and deleted numerous times but people keep bringing this up, and I'm not gonna lie, it hurts and I need to write about it.
Why do people have to keep asking me if we will be able to view a child's medical records before we adopt them? Why do people have to keep telling me about other people they've "Heard of" who adopted children and now had to put them in an institution? Why don't people realize that we will be happy with a child who is less than perfect? Its one thing to be genuinly concerned about us and it is another to say something like "Well so and so got a child from there too, and they had something wrong with them so now they've put them in an institution. Its really sad. I sure hope everything works out for you." Gee thanks! If I was pregnant with a child, no one would say something like "Well so and so was pregnant too and their child was born with something wrong with them, so I hope you are really looking into this being pregnant thing and make sure you know what you're getting into."
Just for the record, adopting a child (for me anyways) is just like being pregnant. God gave me my two children. I didn't get to choose what they would look like or how they would act when they were conceived. I wouldn't love them less if they had been born less than what the world views as perfect. Adopting is no different. God has chosen a child (or children) for us. Instead of being pregnant this time, we have to go bring this child home. They are still our child. We don't know what God has in store for us, or who He has chosen to be our child, but one thing is for certain; when I see my child, I won't be worried about what obstacles we may have to help them overcome, I will be thinking how beautiful they are and how lucky I am for God to have called me to be their mommy.