Hoping to someday find M's brother adopted in the U.S. -
Myckola Oleksandrovych Markov - 8/26/2003

Saturday, September 25, 2010

19 Days

LOOK at my countdown ticker!! Looooookie! Its down to the TEENS!! Yay! :)

Friday, September 24, 2010

Keeping it simple

Well I got a email from our translator this morning. All it said was "I already translated your documents." Or something really close to that. I'm too lazy to open my email and copy & paste the exact words here. Anyways, its like I figured. No news was good news and since they were all ok, he already translated them so even though I did not actually SEE the words "YOUR DOSSIER IS COMPLETE" it .... is.

Evidentially in Ukraine, they don't waste words.

I am still feeling so nervous though. Its like standing at the starting line with your running shoes on just waiting to start the race...

and oh you have to re-tie your shoes.


oh you need to do it again.


Oh ok your shoes are all right now.



20 days to submission and I just want to run.

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Three Weeks Today!

We're 21 days from our dossier submission today! When I put the countdown ticker up, it was 6 months and I thought it would never go by... I'm excited but we still haven't heard from our translator yet about whether or not our updated documents were ok. I'm assumig that they are because he's been right on it when they were not.

I'm also compiling a list of Christian praise songs for my iPod so I'll have my "God zone" I can go into. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd appreciate it if you'd leave a comment :) There are so many great songs out right now but the titles and artists seem to escape me when I go into iTunes to search for them haha.

We received a wonderful surprise this week from a family member. It really was one of those "God things." We had been discussing something related to our adoption and we had kind of decided that IF God wanted us to do this thing, He would provide the additional $$ for it. Well wouldn't you know that the surprise gift was pretty much the exact amount we had discussed needing. How's that for an answer? We'll still have to wait till we get to Ukraine to see if this is indeed in God's plans for us because this is after all a blind adoption, but its starting to feel like that is the direction we're heading.

This song by Third Day keeps playing on the radio everytime I am in the car and I love it. They are no strangers to adopting and I almost wonder if this song was written with a waiting child in mind... Its everything I wish I could say if I could talk to our child right now and assure them that we are on our way.

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling

You have fallen so far now

You don’t even know how, you are going to survive

(But) Just above the horizon

A new light is shining, breaking through the darkest night

Love is coming and it’s calling out your name

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling your name

You feel like your life is fading

You’re tired of waiting, for your moment to arrive

But tomorrow will bring a song that you can sing

And your hope is gonna rise

Love is coming and it’s calling out your name

Lift up your face, lift up your face
Salvation is calling, salvation is calling

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling your name

Oh yeah…

Do you hear Him calling?

Can you hear Him calling?

He’s calling out your name

He’s calling out your name

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling

Lift up your face, lift up your face

Salvation is calling, salvation is calling your name

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Keeping Busy

Our documents were delivered yesterday to our translator in Kiev. We're just waiting to hear from him that they are acceptable this time around. Its all this hurry hurry hurry up and get them re-done and mailed then wait wait wait...

So we have been re-doing our patio. Some of it was a little unlevel so we decided to pull the blocks up and re-level it. Considering I designed the layout and we had to custom cut and fit many blocks because we got about 4 broken palets of block on sale, the putting them back part wasn't as easy as we envisioned. Its definitely keeping us busy.

We are looking forward to going to the State Fair that starts this Thursday. I bought season pass tickets that are good for all 11 days of the fair so we can go as much as we want this time around. Its so big that its hard to see everything in one day especially with two little guys.

I finally found a dual voltage travel size hair dryer and flat iron at Walmart. I also got a second voltage adapter. Everyone says that the voltage converters just burn up so we're getting plugs for our laptop and blackberry to use with the adapter.

We're getting really close now and we're getting super excited! Its just a little nerve wracking with all this waiting...

Thursday, September 16, 2010

It wouldn't be much of a story...

So we're 28 days from submitting our dossier. Our final dossier paperwork is in transit to Kiev. I have prayed over these papers so much that they are practically sanctified by now. I am really not wanting to ever hear the words "notarized" or "apostilled" for a long, long time BUT I will do whatever it takes because,

It wouldn't be much of a story

...if everything went as planned. It wouldn't be much fun to tell about how everything was so easy; we didn't have to redo any paperwork, nothing went wrong, there were no mistakes.

I mean how boring would that be? Where do you get to share about how God moved mountains for you when you saw NO way to do something. How would your faith grow if you didn't have to exercise it?

I could tell our child, "Yep we decided to adopt you and it was SOOooo easy!" No, instead we'll be able to tell a story about how God called us to adopt by using the love we had for our two little guys to open our eyes to children who have no parents. We'll get to tell how even though we really had no extra money, we decided to go ahead and begin the adoption process then watched as God provided us with more than enough in ways that we never dreamt of.

Now, we had to really scrimp and save at times for sure! I went an entire month without buying groceries on several occasions. We never went hungry but we sure cleaned the pantry out LOL We cut our TV package down to the cheapest available; we cut our cell phones back to the bare minimum and we eliminated frivilous spending. We have been waiting an entire year to finish our patio because we felt that really could just wait until we had enough money for our adoption. Phillip has sold two vehicles and done side work on vehicles to help supplement our income and we had a huge fundraiser yardsale. Our paperwork has had several hicups along the way and its still not quite all gotten the ok yet, but we're believing it will be ok this time around!

We've also had several family issues to deal with that have been quite stressful. Adoption can be stressfull enough but add family issues and it starts to get sticky. At a time when you crave the support and encouragement of your family for the biggest leap of faith in your life, but instead are having to deal with other people's petty strife and bad choices that cause discord among other family members; it just gets really frustrating. I've really had to just turn to God to be my support and I have prayed over and over for wisdom to deal with things. One thing I am sure of is that Phillip and I have a strong marriage. I married my best friend and if all of the stress hasn't cracked us yet, nothing will.

I was driving down the road the other day, on the way to get our documents notarized and then driving back to FedEx them to be apostilled AGAIN and I was just thinking that I am SO greatful that I am even able to do this. I am SO blessed to even be in a position where I am so in love with my husband and where we are together committed to add more children to our family through adoption. I feel so blessed. If I have to redo documents again then so be it. I am forever blessed that God has called us to do this. What better place to be in life than to have a wonderful life and to know that God has called you to share it with those who are not so fortunate? Its like having your cake and eating it too :)

I would be forever greatful though, if I don't have to redo anything again... just sayin' (in case God reads my blog)

Monday, September 13, 2010

And they're off... again

I had our documents notarized and FedExed to be apostilled this morning. We would SO greatly appreciate prayers that
1) these documents would make it safely to the authenticating dept.
2) that everything has been correctly notarized and filled out so they can be apostilled
2) That they will then safely make it to our translator in Kiev.
3) That everything will be in order and acceptable to the SDA.

This mama is a paperwork master for sure, but I really don't want to do anything else again!

We're getting so close which is both exciting and nerve wracking as we are still waiting to get the "OK" from our translator that all of our documents are ready for submittal.

We've been studying parables in Matthew in our Sunday School class. This was not the one we were studying but as I was browsing around, I found the parable about the Fig Tree. Funny how I never really paid attention before to what it says.

Matthew 21
18 Now in the morning, as He returned to the city, He was hungry.
19 And seeing a fig tree by the road, He came to it and found nothing on it but leaves, and said to it, “Let no fruit grow on you ever again.” Immediately the fig tree withered away.
20 And when the disciples saw it, they marveled, saying, “How did the fig tree wither away so soon?”
21 So Jesus answered and said to them, “Assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what was done to the fig tree, but also if you say to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ it will be done.

22 And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”

So don't be shy! Pray for us :)

Sunday, September 12, 2010

The Neverevereverending Paperwork Story

We went to a huge multi-dealership sale yesterday and walked the lot looking for a minivan in our price range. They had none. So we were thinking that we'd have to go drive over the mountain to a few more dealerships to see if they had anything. We were getting ready to go but decided to just ask a salesman if they had anything that we might have missed. He said that actually a family who had 4 kids and 1 on the way had traded in their 05 Crysler Town and Country the night before on a larger vehicle. The dad was going to school at UVA to be a pastor and they had needed something to seat 5 car seats. WHEW! LOL Anyways we said YES we'd LOVE to see it so the guy called and had the cleaning people stop in the middle of cleaning it and bring it over so we could look at it. We drove it around and decided that yes, it definitely had 4 very messy little ones in it, but it was in really good shape and actually fully loaded with all the features we'd hoped to find. Stow-and go seating, dual auto opening doors, moonroof, auto open and close trunk, and a few more little things. Oh and leather interior. Nice :) It had a VERY reasonable price on it and we got a nice trade in value on my car so we drove off with it. Wes is SO excited and wanted us to go get the baby girl before naptime because now she has a seat. I told you, he is 100% convinced he is getting a sister lol

So that was absolutely a great day and answer to prayer. We're very happy with it.

So we drive home and get the mail and WHAT IS THIS? Its an envelope that the Secretaty of the Commonwealth's Office had mailed us with all of our dossier documents in it. First off, its a miracle that our horrible postal service managed to even deliver it and they delivered it without destroying it. Seriously, God was protecting that envelope. I've seen what the post office here does to stuff and it ain't pretty. Evidentially 2 of our documents had been notarized without a date (copies of orginials) so they sent it ALL back. Now I have to take things to be copied and notarized again and FedEx them to be apostilled AGAIN.

I know this is just preparing us for paperwork panic in Ukraine, but UGH. I just want to know that all of our paperwork is in Ukraine with our translator and its all ready to be submitted.

So all in all, it was a good weekend. I am just feeling like its Groundhog Day or something... I just did this last week??? Right??? Hah!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010


So I've been a bit busy since last weekend when we found out from our translator that we needed to update/correct a few documents. A date had been written incorrectly on Phillip's medical form so we had to get that re-done along with a few other fairly minor things. We got all of our documents notarized yesterday and I FedExed them to the Secretary of the Commonwealth's office (these people are gonna be kept in jobs b/c of us! lol) this morning and included a prepaid envelope addressed to our translator in Kiev so it will go directly to him instead of back to us then back to Richmond again. Please be in prayer for us that everything is perfectly PERFECT with these documents this time. I don't want to have to re-do something else in a mad rush and we are getting SO close to our submission date!! I also HATE going to the pack-and-ship place. The kids are HORRIBLE every time we go there. I don't know what it is about that place or what I'm doing there, but they are at their worst behaviour every time I have to go mail documents. Then they act like angels in Food Lion 5 minutes later... sheesh!

We are also trying really hard to find a van that will hold our soon to be larger family. We found a nice one at a dealership for a really "nice" price too. I cannot fathom spending as much on a vehicle as it is costing us to complete our entire adoption... just seems crazy! A van or a child is how I keep thinking about it, and maybe that's silly of me; but we are hoping to find one soon that is within our price range :)

We are looking pretty good on the financial part as far as the money we need to travel. We started off not knowing where the money would come from to get past the homestudy process, but here we are with enough money to travel and it was totally a God thing. I have definitely found that Faith is something that cannot grow if you don't USE it. I labled this blog "Our Journey to Ukraine" but it could also be called "Our Journey to Faith." I thought I had faith when we started this thing off... and I did. I had enough faith to start this off and that was about it! But now I am feeling like I understand what it means to have faith that can move mountains. We had a huge mountain called "No Extra Money" and I can happily say that its been moved :) God has orchastrated events in our lives that have led us to this point and I know that if we had not already been in the process of adopting, the money would not have become available.

So with that being said, we're getting extrememly excited!! Its a cautious excitement... we're anxious about the rest of the documents being ok but we're SO ready to go to Ukraine and find out little one(s) that God has chosen to be a part of our family.

Oh and Wes starts preschool tomorrow! He is SO excited and I'm excited for him. I think it will be good for him to have a little structure in his schedule and it will give Wyatt and I a few days a week to spend some time together, just the two of us. Wyatt has never had mommy to himself!

Friday, September 3, 2010

Good news!

Our Drs office just called me and said that our Dr. came in and filled out the form for us today even though he wasn't supposed to be there. We can get it tomorrow or Monday! Whooooppp Whooooopp!! I am gonna sit down and compare it to the copy I have of my correctly completed form to make darn sure its ok this time. I think this make the 3rd time on Phillp's medical form...

Anyways, I am so thankful that people were willing to help us out and get it done quicker than I expected :)

If our God is for us, than what can stand against?

Of course its the holiday weekend

I called our Dr. office about the medical form that needs to be fixed and they told me that our DR. won't be back in the office until Tuesday b/c of Labor Day weekend so we can't get the form until Tuesday at the earliest. URGH

1 month 1 week 4 days till dossier submission...

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Well that's not so bad...

Our translator emailed us today and said that he'd had to make an appointment at the SDA to have our documents checked over so THAT'S what took him so long getting back to us. Seems silly how much I worried now, but I didn't know...

Anyways, the dreaded medical form had an issue. The Drs. office wrote the wrong date on the HIV test. The test was done in July. They put February. So they have to redo the form - AGAIN.

We need 3 copies of our passports not 2. Not sure why this even matters... but they want 3 and all 3 have to be notarized on the same day so we can't just send 1 more copy either LOL

Our marriage certificates are "too old" because they were issued in October of last year. I got them from the Dept. of Vital Records and that took about 2-3 weeks to receive them in the mail. This could be potentially a HUGE HUGE deal because we don't really have that kind of time right now to be requesting these, waiting for them to come in the mail and then mailing them to be apostilled. But God in His infitnite wisdom put it on my heart a few weeks ago to order 2 more "JUST in case" we might need them for some reason. So yep, they're here. I got them last week :)

I never ever in a million years would have thought that the marriage certificates would have been an issue but God knew and took care of it ahead of time.

Soooo.... the bad news is that all of the paperwork wasn't prerfect (I don't think I REALLY expected that), but the good news is that it all can be fixed easily and FedExed to Ukraine in plenty of time for our submission date.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010


Ugh. I STILL have not heard back from our translator since he told us that we have documents in our dossier that needed corrections. It would be nice to know WHICH ones so I could get going on them.

I know he is with another couple right now who had their 3rd SDA appointment this morning and accepted a referal of a girl BUT it takes like 3 minutes to send an email and let me know what to fix!! I emailed Cathy Harris yesterday to ask if she knew what documents needed fixing or if it was pretty normal for our translator to kind of "drop a bomb" like that and then not elaborate any further for DAYS... no word back from her yet either.

This is driving me insane. INSANE I TELL YOU! Ahhhhhh!!!!!!! Maybe God is trying to teach me that I need to let go and let Him handle it a little bit more, and if that's the case, boy I'm really screwing this up. Patience has never been my strong point and I have been praying and asking for more of it recently. I wish I could just be granted it instead of having to learn it... but that's kind of the point then isn't it?

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life; but those who make their journey home across time and miles, growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,are carried on the wings of destiny; and placed among us by God's very own hands. --Kristi Larson