Hoping to someday find M's brother adopted in the U.S. -
Myckola Oleksandrovych Markov - 8/26/2003

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Change is a comin'

After a long road of evaluations, meetings, home visits, meetings, evaluations, paperwork, meetings, and writing and re-writing the IEP, we made the decision to withdraw M from public school.

She was in a special-ed class for 2 1/2 hours a day, 4 days a week and went to the regular pre-k room for 30 minutes each day for a total of four 3 hour days.  We wanted her to have more time or all of her time in the regular pre-k room, but the school felt otherwise.  (I would like to say that her special-ed teacher is a wonderful person and a good teacher, but that room is not where we feel M needs to be spending the majority of her time) 

We finally got her OT and PT evals done this month, after sending in a certified letter requesting them in March.  Yes, 9 months.  After the evals were done and she "qualified" for OT and PT the school decided that they wanted to offer her 30 minutes of each OT & PT a week.  We had asked for 2-4 30 minute blocks each week.  She has a delay of up to 3 years in some areas. 

Once it became clear that the school was not going to allow M into regular pre-k for any more than 30 minutes a day and was not going to offer her a reasonable amount of therapy we started to ask ourselves why exactly had we put her in school to start with?

We put her into public school for 2 main reasons:

  • For socialization with typical children so she'd have peer modeling and friendship.
  • To receive occupational and physical therapy to help her realize her future academic potential

We realized that by doing private PT and having a private tutor to do OT with her, we are meeting her therapy needs to the best of our ability.

We withdrew her from public school and enrolled her in private preschool with Wy.  She'll be in a typical classroom setting with typical children at her developmental level.   

We think this will be wonderful for her!

I'm not a fan of change.  I thought we'd already made the best decision for her and after putting so much effort into public school, I hated to just throw in the towel.  However, it wasn't about what was easy or hard.  It wasn't about what was "ok" or "good enough" for M.  We wanted what was best for her.  As her parents its our job to be her advocates.

It is our job to make sure she's getting the absolute best that we or anyone else can offer her.  If that means utilizing every resource available to us and then seeking out even more when we feel like she needs more than she's getting, we will.

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Ellen Stumbo said...

Having Nina in private preschool with Ellie worked so well for Nina! I hope it is the same for M going to school with W.
As for public school, maybe their Kindergarten options will be better? I highly recommend the book, "Wright's Law:From Emotions to Advocacy." It gives great insight and clearly states the law when it comes to public education.

Stacie said...

Sounds to me like the right decision. You all need a school which supports your goals, I'm sure this will make a huge difference going forward. Over from CP Connection.

Vinnie's Warriors said...

You commented on the Cornish blog asking about the stroller - thought I'd pop over and tell you it's a valco baby twin tri-mode stroller. They are super spendy new, but have seen them (still spendy) on craigslist. That's where we got ours! It's heavy, but it holds them all!!! (and my 4-year-old fits very comfortably.

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life; but those who make their journey home across time and miles, growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,are carried on the wings of destiny; and placed among us by God's very own hands. --Kristi Larson