M brought home a project today.
Its the one that adoptive parents dread.
The one asking for baby pictures and cute excerpts from your child's infant and toddler life.
Only my child doesn't have pictures of infanthood.
I don't know what she liked as a baby.
These kinds of projects are so painful because of what they bring up about a child's past.
WHY don't I have baby pictures? WHY weren't you there? WHY did my tummy mom leave me?
I gave her the option of not doing it at all (she was scared she'd be in trouble with her teacher if she did not do it), skipping school on project day OR modifying it.
Skipping school to her is not an option, so she chose modifying it.
This is what we decided on.
I'm proud of her. I was nearly in tears because its JUST NOT OKAY to make a Kindergarten student feel singled out because they don't have baby pictures or toddler pictures. So.much.trauma. can be involved in those memories of what life was before they had a forever family. I was so worried we'd go down the "But why didn't my tummy mom keep me?" road again. And I... just :(
She embraced this with such enthusiasm.
"YES! I want to be in God's hands!"