I don't feel like I get a lot of things right with M. She's complex, acting out behaviors in negative ways sometimes before finally saying anything. All I could say was "I wish you had been in my belly too. But, you ARE like everyone else. Your legs don't work as well but you are like everyone else and if you want to climb trees then go ahead and give it a shot."
I really hope that was the right thing to say. I honestly have had the same thought many times in the past month about all of my adopted kids. I wish I could have had them all from the start when they were so tiny and vulnerable.