Hoping to someday find M's brother adopted in the U.S. -
Myckola Oleksandrovych Markov - 8/26/2003

Monday, September 28, 2015

What I'd Say

Two years ago we were two days from boarding a plane to Ukraine.  

So so much has happened in two years.  So much has changed.  

One thing has stayed the same though.  God has been faithful through our adoption process, adding three new kids, countless hours of advocating, IEP meetings, doctor appointments, neuropsychological evals, lawyers, therapies, a new school, moving, paying two mortgages, finally selling our house, a difficult pregnancy, choosing to homeschool all of the kids, a new baby... 

We've crammed a lot into two years. 
I had it all planned out...
Those plans crashed and burned. 

I've learned a lot. If I could go back and say something to myself two years ago it'd be something like this: 

This isn't going to go at all like you planned, but you're not making a mistake. 

People you respect, trust, and are depending on will hurt you. Remember your kids are worth it. You are changing the course of their lives. The devil doesn't like that so he will throw hell at you in many forms. 

Give it back. 

It will be harder than you ever imagined. 
You will want to give up. 

You will have a few good friends left. Treasure them.

You are doing a better job than you think you are. 
Be kind to yourself. 

Pray more.
Laugh more.
Try to take time to enjoy the kids more.
Drink more wine. (You're gonna need it)

1 comment:

SammE said...

You are wise, and faithful, and it shows! You are doing beautifully with the children, and I can't see that two years ago has been any bit a mistake. :) For sure, lots has been difficult, and I admire greatly that you've kept on keeping on, with God at the centre. I think you're doing great! Wish I lived nearby so I could meet you and give you a huge hug! And help with the kids sometime. :) I'd like that! samm

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life; but those who make their journey home across time and miles, growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,are carried on the wings of destiny; and placed among us by God's very own hands. --Kristi Larson